I live for those "light bulb" moments. Whether it's a baby making a connection between a ball and an apple, an older child realizing he should take a deep breath when he's getting upset, or a mom realizing that when she's able to remain calm when her child is upset that her child is able to calm quicker, these are the moments that I know learning is happening.
Sometimes growth is small and hardly noticeable, but it is present. I believe it's possible in all beings. Celebrating the growth, no matter how small, is far more beneficial than focusing on the struggles. When this is realized we are not only more patient with those around us, but also with ourselves. If all beings can grow, then we can too.
I encourage you to focus on the growth you're observing over the course of the next week. See how this alters your perspective and interactions. Please share in the comments section if you're comfortable.
The following are just a few examples of where I've observed growth over the course of the past week.
- My husband felt bad about an interaction he had with his dad. He talked it through with all of us at the dinner table one night and then called his dad after to apologize. The situation had happened two days prior to my husband bringing this up. This isn't like him to wonder about how his dad might be perceiving their interactions. However, as we're watching our own son get older and my husband is seeing how their relationship is shifting a bit he's having a different appreciation for the role he plays in his relationship with his dad.
- My son took a boy he was babysitting on a ride on a lawn mower. When he was done he didn't park it exactly where he found it. I had intended to ask him to move it, but before I could my son moved it on his own. This sounds simple, but it was a sign that his executive function skills and level of responsibility is shifting and luckily shifting in the direction we'd like to see it go!
- A friend acknowledged that she should've handled a situation between us differently than she did. Acknowledging this is not easy for this friend. I appreciate her self-reflection and honesty.
- Although our new rescue dog is still barking and pulling more than we'd like (and we are actively working on this with him), he is now staying in the yard off leash and can wait for his food until we say it's okay and can sit and shake.